Sunday, September 27, 2015

Is Love Broken?

Too many of my friends have gone through major breakups in the past couple of weeks. I mean "we're were talking about marriage and now we're not together" type of breakups. 

I'm trying to understand what is going on and why my awesome, educated, beautiful friends can't have long-lasting relationships?

Why is dating so freaking hard? When did it become complicated?

I'm sad for my friends. I want them to have love, real love, real relationships. 

I feel because I can't really help. I met my husband because he was my neighbor. He was very, very persistent. I was lucky and I completely recognize that. 

I do believe that every failed relationship is a learning lesson and something to prepare for the correct one. 

The guy I "dated" (and I'm using the word dated loosely here) before my husband was perfect on paper. I mean he hit every box on my checklist....

☑ Smart/College Educated
☑ Has a career not just a job
☑ Owns a car
☑ Amazing body
☑ Fairly good looking
☑ Love dogs
☑ Homeowner
☑ Ambitious 
☑ Funny/Could hold a conversation 

We worked at the same company in different departments and he immediately caught my attention. We flirted and exchanged numbers. We went on a lunch date (read: he was cheap. I didn't know better). He came to my house and didn't try to sleep with me. I was so impressed. We talked on the phone and texted often. He came over again and we had some pretty mediocre sex. He texted me when he got home and then he never called me again. I mean NEVER. I tried contacting him one more time and then I figured out that I had been played. 

I was lucky he was discreet. No one at work knew. I wish I had been patient and not blinded by the potential "perfect man" that I rushed everything. Had I taken the time I would have figured out that this guy never brought the same girl to any work function , that he is really kinda boring and just because it looks good on paper doesn't mean it is meant for me. 

I know there is hope. I know that it is easy for me to say that on the other side of "struggle." I know that when I had given up is right when I met my husband so keep your options and your heart open.