Saturday, January 25, 2014


I just got into my first car accident. Thank GOD everyone is OK. The damage to my car is pretty minimum. The damage to my pocketbook is going to be serious. The worse part about the whole accident is that I left the house without saying "see ya later" to my husband. I didn't even give him a kiss. We normally part ways with a kiss, an "I love you" and a "see ya later."

Instead, I was mad (we were having a very minor disagreement) and I didn't have time to talk it out because I had to be somewhere. So I purposely left the house without saying anything to him (petty, I know). Then I got into a accident. On the way home I thought--what if the accident was serious? The last thing my husband would have heard me say is something with an attitude. Needless to say I felt awful because I know better! 

I needed a reminder about what is important. My relationships with my husband, family and friends are important. I need to take time to show them that I appreciate them and even though they may piss me off and get on my very last nerve, I still have their back. You never know when it is your last 

Yesterday I found out that my friends' husband died from the flu. The flu! He was only 39 years old. My hearts bleeds for her. I can't and don't want to imagine losing my husband. It is another heartbreaking reminder to live each day to the fullest. It's cliche but true. I won't get all preachy but sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day that we forget to appreciate what is in front of us. It's the simple things in life that make it special. 

My favorite times and memories are playing board games with my family, pillow talk with my husband, late night dance parties in the dorm at Howard. Of course I also cherish the big moments like seeing the Eiffel Tower and the cliff divers in Hawaii. Those memories are more important than if I made it to my destination on time. Instead of rushing out of the house I should have stayed and talked to my husband like we normally do. Then we could have made up in the best way possible.  

You Only Live Once #yolo Be your best always! 

I wanted to leave y'all with something lighthearted. 

Friday, January 17, 2014

Unemployment Problems

The other day I posted this video 10 Awkward Moments When You're Unemployed. 

It was completely hilarious and completely true. I laughed and sympathized. It is the story of my life right now. 

The truth is, I'm struggling y'all. I recently had one of those days where I was feeling completely low and dissatisfied with where I am in life.

I want my life back. I feel like I'm not me anymore. I miss being able to do the things I use to do. It's not just about not being able to go shopping but I hate missing out on opportunities. If I do go out it has to be planned down the the dollar. After not being careful with my money for so long this extreme planning is against my nature. Maybe it is a good lesson that I needed to learn.  

In theory it is nice to not have to put on a bra everyday and go to work.  But I fear I'm losing my skills. What if I forget how to teach or how to inspire my students? I'm afraid I'll be the teacher on the what not to do example videos they show us during teacher training. I'm afraid that when I do go back to work, I will be the weird anti-social coworker. Or worse the over-eager super social coworker. 

I'm also afraid I'm enjoying being at home. Part of me loves being able to stay up all night and sleep all day. I've discovered daytime television and I like it. I can take a nap anytime. I've been working on writing my novels. The only responsibility I have is to find a job. 

When one of my friends was laid-off/fired they always appeared to bounce back . Their life barely interrupted.  A new job secured quickly.  I wonder if the "bouncing back" was just a facade and they were silently freaking out like I am now.  If they were, I feel like I was a shitty friend because the next person that tells me "it will all work out" is getting stabbed. 

Since I promised myself I was going to be more positive in 2014 I decided to take all these negative fears and thoughts and create a vision board for what I do want. When I'm feeling low I can look at my vision board and know what is coming. I'll get started on that...right after my nap. 

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

My Dating and Sex Rules for 2014 (NSFW)

My friends and I were having an in-depth girl chat about dating and sex. It was hilarious and normally done sipping wine through fits of giggles. I am so proud that one of my friends is putting herself out there. It has taken a long time for her to get here after a horrible relationship. Which led me to my dating and sex tips for her because it is confusing out in the dating world. So I thought I would share them with you all. 

Pria's Dating and
Sex Rules for 2014 

1. Thou can kiss after the third date: Just kiss. No tongue. 

2. Thou can make out after a month of dating: Making out is so Jr. high and surprisingly fun. All touching should be above the waist and over the clothes. Tongue is definitely allowed.  Also by this time you should have a conversation about how far you are willing to go and when. Be clear and make sure you stick to your timeline. And if you are not feeling him/her stop dating here.

3. Thou can reach second base after two months of dating: Second base is under the clothes and above the waist. This is probably one of the hardest bases to stick to because it is easy to slip a hand below the belt. 

4. Thou can reach third base after two and a half months of dating: Third base is below the belt and oral. Ladies please make sure you are receiving as much as giving. If s/he isn't into that drop them. 

5. Thou can go all the way after three months of dating: Whew you made it and it is totally worth it. Enjoy!

6. Thou shall not get busy in your friends bed: Some people will not agree but it's rude to get sexed in your friends bed. Unless you make prior arrangements with your friend. This also applies if you are the one hosting. Making out is totally acceptable. 

7. Thou can do-the-do during a couples getaway weekend: My friend K was horrified to find out another friend got pregnant during a getaway weekend. They all rented a beach house for a week. K and her boyfriend refrained while everyone else enjoyed the romantic ambiance. It is a vacation; enjoy! 

8. Thou shall ask for what you want: The key to a great relationship and a great sex life is communication. You can not be scared to ask for what you want. 

9. Thou shall try new things: I could make you blush here but I won't (unless you want me to...). Be open minded and try it once.  If you like it, awesome. Sometimes things don't work out- one time we fell off the bed during coitus. We laughed and moved on but at least we tried. It's FUN! 

10. Thou shall fall in love: Sex is so much better when you're in love. Don't let anyone else tell you different. 

and remember all rules are made to be broken...