Monday, November 4, 2013

When Did it Become Ok to be a Flake?

I recently posted this article about "How did it Get to Be 'Ok' for Everyone to be Late for Everything" on Facebook. Many people commented on it expressing their agreement on people being late and justifying it.

The writer points out that people don't even bother with excuses anymore. They just show up late without apologizing.  Am I supposed to plan around knowing you will be 25 minutes late?

The husband and I planned a party. I was freaking out because we forgot something that required a run to the store. Of course we didn't realize it until 5 minutes before the party was to start. Needless to say all that worrying was for nothing. Everyone was LATE. The party didn't start until an hour later. Then I had a minor freak out that no one was coming because of course no one call or texted [is that correct?] to let me know they were running late. While the party turned out great I was a little annoyed because I times the food perfectly.  

What is worse than the late phenomenon is the flaky people. When did it get to be ok for people to make plans and constantly cancel or worse don't show up at all. No call, no text, nothing.

It is like people agree to do a bunch of events and then cancel the one that seems less exciting. It is ridiculous. Is it that hard to commit to a function?

For some reason we don't want to say 'no' to our friends but sometimes we should.  If you don't want to do it, don't do it. 

When you plan a wedding you typically pay for each person- if they show or not. If I am paying $150 a head I expect everyone to show up. Now if they have a completely valid excuse e.g. their child is in the hospital, giving birth, or fell down a flight of stairs. I completely understand them not showing up. 

But please call or text.  Let's all try to be more considerate of each other. It will make the world a better place.

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