Wednesday, August 21, 2013

365 Days of Sex

My friend tweeted an article about a wife who "gave" her husband a gift of sex for a year. The wife was pretty reasonably happy in her marriage but found their sex life lackluster. The wife decided to change it and write a book about it. I almost purchased the book to see how they accomplished the feat. I wanted it to read like a sex diary however the reviews are clear that it is more of a exploration of their life. 

My first thought about the article and book is I call bullshit. It is nearly impossible to have sex everyday because...

Most women have menstrual cycles. Now there are a couple of ways to circumvent this issue- birth control, oral sex, "backdoor", or just go for it. 

2.  Someone does not feel well: I usually don't get sick but in a year I'm am sure I will get sick at least once. I don't know about you but the thought of trying to get it on with a stuffed nose, sore throat and a headache does not put me in the mood. In fact I don't want to be touched. What about those nights you are sick to your stomach? You can't tell me sex is enjoyable with bubble guts. 

3. Someone is exhausted: Granted this is a weak excuse but it does happen. After a day of work, taking care of kids, working on your book and cooking dinner, it is hard to get it up. 

4. Honestly who really wants to have sex everyday? I know some of you are thinking this girl is crazy but put it into food terms. If you have a Cinnabun® every single day for a month wouldn't you get tired of that Cinnabun®. It's nice to skip a day because it makes you want it more. The break makes returning to you lover more exciting. 

Sex does not HAVE to take a nosedive after marriage. I hate that it has become a running joke. My single friends ask me in whispers if it is true that married couples stop having sex. I laugh. I know it is true that some couples are not having sex.  Although you can't prove that from my couple friends (if I get another baby announcement....). Seriously it is not that hard to make sex a priority. After that is it easy to have that special connection at least 345 days a year. 

Maybe I should write a sex diary...Hmmmm

Update: Another interesting article about 365 days of sex 

Monday, August 12, 2013

I hate saying goodbye

Is it wrong of me to not want to say goodbye? We leave for California in ten days. My various groups of friends want to get together for happy hours, dinners and cookouts. I'm not feeling it.

I hate saying goodbye.

I hate being the center of attention.

I'm ok with talking about leaving except to people who try to talk me out of it. It's too late; plane tickets are purchased, movers are scheduled, my mind is set.

Honestly, I don't know if moving to California is a good decision. It is the best decision for the situation now. That is all I can ask for. We (my husband and I) prayed about it. We talked endlessly about it. Once we made the decision I felt awesome about it.

I know I shouldn't complain about having friends that want to see me off. I am blessed. When I moved to DC I knew three people. I met and married my husband-gained a family.  I joined the Sorority and gained a slew of sisters. I've befriended awesome coworkers that I now call friends.

Blessed. Truly Blessed.

Leaving them is not easy. How soon will they forget about me. We will promise to keep in touch. We will for a little bit then it will all be reduced to contact through Facebook. They will promise to visit. I doubt they will actually come but will welcome them if they do.

So in the next two weeks I will finish packing and say goodbye. I'm ready...well except for the packing part. I'm so sick of packing. I'm almost tempted to pay the movers to pack up everything. It seriously might be worth it.