Tuesday, April 10, 2012

When Confrontation goes Awry.

As I grow in my 30s I feel the need to project a image of someone who is more polished and refined than I really feel (working on the premise that if I fake it long enough I'll probably actually feel grown).  Lately, I've struggled with a challenge on confrontation. It is my nature to be upfront and confrontational [side note: not all confrontation is a bad thing]. I've been avoiding confrontation with a coworker. I'm not sure how to proceed with her. 

THE BACK STORY: This coworker and I had a silly misunderstanding, mostly because sometimes things are lost in translation (she's from another country and sometimes just doesn't understand). She ended the interaction with a rude statement towards me. I was frankly kinda shocked. It was really out of character for her. I waited for awhile then I went to her to clear the air. I explained that it was a simple misunderstanding and that I don't know why it got so out of hand. I also said that if I was to talk to her in the way she talked to me, I would have been pulled into our bosses office and "talked" too.  Her response was basically to accuse me of doing something that had NOTHING to do with the misunderstanding. 

The issue is; she's not talking to me. In theory I like her not talking to me because now I don't have to pretend to care about her life. Sorry the truth is this girl is my complete opposite in EVERY way. We have nothing in common. However, I do supervise her. I need to talk to her to do my job but somehow we've made it two weeks without directly talking to each other. Now I could confront her again and tell her this whole thing is silly but I really just want to torture her. I want to find ways to make her talk to me and watch her try to avoid it. Is that sadistic? I'll probably be a grown-up one of these days and squash it but until then ignoring her seems to be the path. 

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Interesting Questions

My friend and fellow blogger( Tasha's 365 Musical Journey ) decided  to tag me in a question/answer chain letter type thing. I thought I would give it a try although I probably will not pass it on.

Here are the rules:

Post the rules.

Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post

Create eleven new questions to ask the people you’ve tagged.

Tag eleven people and link to them on your post.

Let them know you’ve tagged them!

Now it’s my turn to ask questions.

Now time for the questions.

1) If you could be an adult during any other decade in history, which would you choose? My first thought to answer this question is if I was an adult during any other decade would I be Black? If yes that sort-of changes the answer. I love the 50s but I would not necessarily want to be Black during the 50s. My second choice would be the 70s. I would have been a awesome hippy.

2) If you could get rid of any one celebrity, who would you choose?

3) Who was your childhood celebrity crush? Will Smith-- I call him my ex husband

4) What outfit are you wearing in a picture from your past that makes you shake your head? I had this fake cross colors matching shorts and jean jacket. I love it- it was not cute at all!

5) What is your favorite love song? Love is You by Chrisette Michele. It is my wedding song.

6) What is your guilty pleasure show? Secret Life of the American Teenager

7) Who is your favorite author? Maya Angelou

8) Which cartoon character most closely resembles your personality? Tweety Bird  (I still contend that Tweety is a girl)

9) What is your least favorite chore? Doing the Dishes

10) Which post is your favorite on Tasha's 365 Musical Journey? Red High Heels because it's basically a girl power one. Also, None of Your Business because I am tired of people caring about what is going on in my uterus.

11) Which zodiac sign do you feel you are most compatible with? Leo!


I have had a bad run the pass couple of months.... 5 traffic tickets for various reasons. I started driving when I was 14. I got my permit at 15.5 and my license at 16.  Over the years I've had a few (literally a few)  tickets but nothing like this. Is it the Washington DC area? Everyone I know here has tickets- multiple tickets (speeding, parking, etc). While my friends in California rarely talk about their tickets. All the tickets are my fault and I will spend the next week and paycheck trying to clear my good name. From this day forward I promise to drive better and pay my tickets on TIME!! 

Dreamz Really Do Come True

Have you ever had a goal that you wanted to reach so bad that when you finally do it feels so surreal and unbelievable? I became a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc. It was a long time coming and a dream realized. When I told people that I joined a sorority (at my age) many of my friends immediately understood  and some of my friends and coworkers were completely confused. I had to explain that Black Greek Organizations have alumni chapter's and they do amazing work in the community. I want to help and be involved and make a difference. 

I believe there is no age limit on following your dreams. Two years ago my mom graduated from law school at the age of 50. I am unbelievably proud of her. My mom packed up her life, sold her house and moved to the East Coast to attend Law School. I think it is hard to leave a successful career with one child in college, move to a state you've never been to before, compete with classmates who are the same age as your eldest child. It was a incredibly hard and challenging but when she walked across that stage and was hooded by her mentor, it was all worthwhile.

It may be silly to say but.... I want to remind everyone that is it NEVER too late to follow you dream no matter how small or big. It is never to late to have lofty dreams. It is my dream to go to Italy and buy a villa (a la Under the Tuscan Sun). It may be silly but it's my dream and I'm going to try my hardest to make it happen.